Eating disorders are serious mental illnesses. It’s important to remember that eating disorders are not all about food, but about feelings. People with eating disorders use disordered eating behaviours as a way to cope with difficult situations and feelings, as this may make them feel more able to cope, or may make them feel in control.
These behaviours can include:
- Limiting the amount of food eaten.
- Eating large amounts of food at once.
- Getting rid of food once eaten through unhealthy means.
- Or a combination of all.
Eating disorders will vary from individual to individual, there is also a lot of overlap between eating disorders. So it is important to contact a healthcare professional for the right support and treatment.
Creating an action plan can help support your recovery journey. It can remind you to stay motivated and give you something to look back on when you are struggling. Keeping it somewhere easy to access, such as on your phone or bedroom wall, can make it more helpful throughout the day.
Your action plan could include:
- Distractions to use before, during, or after eating
- Reasons and motivations for recovery
- People you can contact for support
- Positive quotes or affirmations
- Support services available during the day
- Evening or out-of-hours support options
- Helpful resources or support groups you can access when needed
Having a list of distractions can help take your mind away from eating disorder behaviours and difficult emotions. Different activities may help when you are feeling bored, lonely, angry, stressed, or tired, and can provide healthier ways to cope. What works best will be different for everyone, so it can help to choose distractions that feel right for you. Some may be quick and simple, while others may take more time and effort depending on what you need in the moment.
If you are concerned about someone with an eating disorder, encouraging them to seek professional help early can improve their chances of recovery. However, recovery involves more than treatment alone, and loved ones can provide valuable support in everyday life. This may include listening without judgement, helping with meals, or simply being there for them.
It is important to remember that neither you or your loved one are to blame for the illness. Try to understand how difficult their experience may be and learn more about eating disorders where possible. Encourage open conversations by asking how they feel rather than making assumptions, and avoid discussing weight, dieting, or appearance around them.
Recovery takes time, so offering reassurance and reminding your loved one that improvement is possible can make a difference. Ask them what support they need, while also recognising behaviours that may unintentionally enable the eating disorder, such as changing routines to reduce distress. Most importantly, remember to take care of your own wellbeing while supporting someone else.
